I messed up, I did something wrong to a friend and now, I feel really guilty. What should I do?
We all have been in that situation where we wake up in the morning hoping that we will can stay in bed all day. Sometimes the guilt is so unbearable that we wish we had an "undo" key to erase it all.
Well, we don't have the magic key; we are guilty, deal with it and move forward.
So, here is my thought:
First, if you mess up, you really need to understand where you went wrong. How did you manage to fuck up so bad?
Then, approach the person, your friend, and express that you understand how your actions impacted him/her and that you sincerely regret your actions.
It's important that you sincerely apologize and show true regret to the other person; apologies have the power to heal disappointment.
Understand, It takes courage to step up and admit what you did was wrong.
Now, if you have sincerely done your best to repair and show regret, then it is up to the other person to decide whether they forgive you or not.
Hopefully, your friend will accept your apology, but do not get discouraged if they don’t. Some people quickly forgive, others need time, plenty of time, to get over and to rebuild trust.
Do your best with the part that is up to you. The rest is up to them. It is not your decision, yet it is yours to forgive yourself knowing that you have done all in your power.
Remember, guilt is a feeling of having done wrong or failing someone; it is the sensation of not forgiving ourselves for things that we did in the past; not forgiving ourselves for hurting someone, not forgiving ourselves even after making amends.
Yes, you messed up, but forgive yourself. Learn from it, focus on repairing the situation but stop it from replaying in your head. What is done is done and now you can make things right!
A guilty feeling will slowly consume your soul and destroy your will. Focus on forgiving yourself for what you've done. Learn from the situation, make the commitment to do better in the future, and let that guilt walk away.
People who are not willing to forgive will always have to live with a negative energy. Free yourself, forgive and be positive that we all have the ability to improve!
Every time an autocrat is against the ropes, they shout-out ‘conspiracy, conspiracy...’ These Presidents-for-Life are ‘convinced’ that a vast international plot is underway to destabilize their governments and to eventually oust them from power.
Conspiracy has become a term to be used as an exit strategy. A term used to derail attention from the real issues.
First, what is the dictionary definition of conspiracy?
It as a secret plan by a group to do something unlawful or harmful; it is a plot under wraps…
Now, understanding the meaning, lets find out what are the latest conspiracy theories on the news:
Here is my thought:
An autocratic regimen is a government in which a supreme power is concentrated in the hands of one person. A system that manages to control all institutions of a democracy without having any popular restraints.
When there is no sharing of power, no rule of law, no accountability, there is abuse. Abuse that people will not accept and will eventually rebel against.
When autocratic regimes come under increasing pressure for political reform, instead of admitting to the genuine roots of the problem, they will find desperate arguments to explain the chaos to their compatriots.
And always, the fault will fall on the rich or the foreign-funded NGOs. Arguing that both groups are plotting to destabilize the “democratic governments,” and conniving to overturn the “genuine elected leader.”
So, what is an absolute-ruler definition of conspiracy?
When a Presidents-for-Life is afraid, afraid of losing power, he/she will always come out with a theory, the conspiracy theory!
What did Margaret Thatcher mean when she said:
"The problem with socialism is that you eventually run out of other people's money"?
Socialism discourages people to innovate and to be industrious.
Socialism takes your soul away, so you wont have any aspirations and remain contented.
Socialism entitles citizens to spend wealth without creating it.
Socialism promotes a system in which mediocrity is rewarded!
Here is the question:
Why does a President decide to become a President for life, a Dictator-President?
Simple, power intoxicates and corrupts people; it is human nature.
Democratically elected leaders worked hard to get elected, after getting elected they rapidly fail to remember why they ran for office or the people they are representing. This is where they start to believe that they are entitled to their position.
That is when they go wrong:
First, they remove any legal checks and balances, moving against free media ownership; then, they rewrite the constitution abolishing their term limit, in the hope that their authority, legitimacy, and term will never be disputed. And finally, they make bad but popular decisions to win over the people and their vote, this is when they fuck up!
“No oppression is so heavy or lasting as that which is inflicted by the perversion and exorbitance of legal authority.” - Joseph Addison
Have you ever stayed quiet in a meeting because you did not want to come across as being unsupportive of the group's efforts?
If so, you have become a follower and there is a term for this suffering: “herd-mentality.”
Herd-mentality is when everyone in a group begins to think alike; it is when people make decisions as a caucus discouraging individuality and initiative.It is when the group consensus cancels out common sense, alternatives or criticism.
Herd-mentality occurs when a group has a strong and persuasive leader, when it has a high level of unity or when it has intense pressure from the outside.
So, here is my thought:
It is essential to stay away from the herd-mentality; lack of conflict or opposition results in poor decisions because alternatives are never fully analyzed.
Be willing to stand out; you won’t lead the pack by sticking with the multitude, you will lead by daring to do things differently.
Develop your own opinion; learn about your choices so you can make intelligent and well-informed decisions.
Just because everyone is agreeing, it doesn’t mean they are right; take time to make decisions, ask questions and evaluate your options.
Do not be concerned about what the rest of the people think about you; choose what is best for you!
Keep in mind: herd-mentality is an easy way to avoid personal responsibility; most importantly, it takes guts to walk away from a herd!
“If everyone is thinking alike, then somebody isn't thinking.” ― George S. Patton Jr.
Who I am today as a person is largely due to my failures!