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That Feeling of Guilt

6/26/2015

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I messed up, I did something wrong to a friend and now, I feel really guilty. What should I do?

We all have been in that situation where we wake up in the morning hoping that we will can stay in bed all day. Sometimes the guilt is so unbearable that we wish we had an "undo" key to erase it all.

Well, we don't have the magic key; we are guilty, deal with it and move forward.

So, here is my thought:

First, if you mess up, you really need to understand where you went wrong. How did you manage to fuck up so bad?

Then, approach the person, your friend, and express that you understand how your actions impacted him/her and that you sincerely regret your actions.

It's important that you sincerely apologize and show true regret to the other person; apologies have the power to heal disappointment.

Understand, It takes courage to step up and admit what you did was wrong.

Now, if you have sincerely done your best to repair and show regret, then it is up to the other person to decide whether they forgive you or not.

Hopefully, your friend will accept your apology, but do not get discouraged if they don’t. Some people quickly forgive, others need time, plenty of time, to get over and to rebuild trust.

Do your best with the part that is up to you. The rest is up to them. It is not your decision, yet it is yours to forgive yourself knowing that you have done all in your power.

Remember, guilt is a feeling of having done wrong or failing someone; it is the sensation of not forgiving ourselves for things that we did in the past; not forgiving ourselves for hurting someone, not forgiving ourselves even after making amends.

Yes, you messed up, but forgive yourself. Learn from it, focus on repairing the situation but stop it from replaying in your head.  What is done is done and now you can make things right!

A guilty feeling will slowly consume your soul and destroy your will. Focus on forgiving yourself for what you've done. Learn from the situation, make the commitment to do better in the future, and let that guilt walk away.

People who are not willing to forgive will always have to live with a negative energy.  Free yourself, forgive and be positive that we all have the ability to improve!

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9/5/2020 06:44:31 pm

Never give up on your dreams, that is the mindset for success. If you are here in this world, then you are going to have to think about that. Success is built upon failure after failure, that is the truth of the matter. If you give up after failing a few times, then how will you ever manage to attain success. You have to fail and fail, that is the best way to learn and to get some valuable experience.

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