After listening to the infamous or famous Monica Lewinsky giving a powerful talk about “the price of shame,” I had to share my thoughts.
- We all have fucked up; we all have woken up in the morning hoping that we could stay in bed all day. Sometimes shame is so unbearable, to the point that it cripples us and we don’t know how to deal with it.
So, to learn to deal with shame, first we need understand the meaning: Shame is a painful feeling of humiliation or distress caused by the consciousness of wrong or foolish behavior. It is the embarrassment of character. It is a heavy weight on your soul.
Now, how can we deal with this burden?
First, we need to accept that we messed up. We were wrong or stupid.
Then, we must love ourselves enough to know how to forgive ourselves. To forgive yourself is to set free your soul and mind.
Third and most important, how people view us does not define who we are; their idea is not our reality.
Keep in mind: The majority sees your failures as their success because they have no true success to measure by. Your jury has messed up as much as you or worst; they are judging you because you are the excuse to make them feel better.
It took Monica Lewinsky over 10 years to understand that her “sin” was as a big of a deal than anyone else. She was in love, made a mistake and that was it!
"It is not your mistakes that define you; it is the process of understanding, accepting, learning and making it better to end up worthy!" - Mauricio Fraga-Rosenfeld
- We all have fucked up; we all have woken up in the morning hoping that we could stay in bed all day. Sometimes shame is so unbearable, to the point that it cripples us and we don’t know how to deal with it.
So, to learn to deal with shame, first we need understand the meaning: Shame is a painful feeling of humiliation or distress caused by the consciousness of wrong or foolish behavior. It is the embarrassment of character. It is a heavy weight on your soul.
Now, how can we deal with this burden?
First, we need to accept that we messed up. We were wrong or stupid.
Then, we must love ourselves enough to know how to forgive ourselves. To forgive yourself is to set free your soul and mind.
Third and most important, how people view us does not define who we are; their idea is not our reality.
Keep in mind: The majority sees your failures as their success because they have no true success to measure by. Your jury has messed up as much as you or worst; they are judging you because you are the excuse to make them feel better.
It took Monica Lewinsky over 10 years to understand that her “sin” was as a big of a deal than anyone else. She was in love, made a mistake and that was it!
"It is not your mistakes that define you; it is the process of understanding, accepting, learning and making it better to end up worthy!" - Mauricio Fraga-Rosenfeld
