To master a discipline or to become skilled on a craft takes continuous learning, endless hours of practice, patience and passion. It takes a substantial amount of work.
After becoming proficient in a skill we have the sense of accomplishment; we are excited and feel great. We know that we have become an authority in our field and that we deserve the fruits of our labor.
Now, here is the tricky situation that the majority of us suffer from after becoming an “expert:”
It is right to trust our abilities and be self-confident, yet we have to become careful not to be overconfident.
Self-confidence means to trust in one's abilities, qualities, and judgment. It is the ability to envision optimism and success when others only see failure. It helps to get over the fears and being able to achieve. Self-Confidence means to be happy about ones abilities and to be self-assured.
Over-confident is to be excessively or unreasonably confident. When we become over-confident is when we allow our ego to take over and we lose perspective of reality; it is when mistakes are made.
So: What does it means “to allow our ego to take over?”
It means to think too highly about ourselves; to truly believe that we are always right and that everything should go our way.
It means to stop listening to other people’s opinion and to disregard the feelings or desires of others.
It means to constantly seek acceptance to justify our needs; to crave respect and recognition from others.
It means to be self-centered!
Here is a lesson for all of us:
To have an ego is good, but it has to balanced like the water in a bath. The water can’t be too hot or too cold, it has to be always ajusted right; if not, we could get burned or turn blue with cold.
When our ego becomes too big, we become blind; we don’t see ourselves engaging in such behaviors but everyone else does. Yet, if we open our minds and honestly see ourselves we will recognize the problem, and then we can slow down and self-correct it.
A true master, a true leader, a true friend, a true teacher… feels good about himself knowing to put his ego to the side understanding that he has a talent but is not unique. He puts himself out in front and accepts complete responsibility when things go wrong and gives credit when things go right. A true master never stops learning, progressing and is grateful to be able to lead!
At the end, it takes an upstanding person to admit that he/she is absorbed in such an egocentric conduct and is willing to react and change.
Who I am today as a person is largely due to my failures!